When I was in grad school I had a course on gender dynamics. (Having returned to school later, I was good ten years older than most of the students.) In every class we divided up the men and women into two groups, then came up with a list of questions we wanted to ask the other gender. It was a fascinating exercise. One of the things that moved me deeply was to hear how deeply these young men felt the weight of traditional expectations for men and how much they wanted to be able to bring their whole selves to relationships and life but had few models for doing that.
The Good Men Project is addressing some of those very issues. Here’s what they say about themselves:
The Good Men Project is a diverse community of 21st century thought leaders who are actively participating in a conversation about the way men’s roles are changing in modern life—and the way those changes affect everyone. We explore the world of men and manhood in a way that no media company ever has, tackling the issues and questions that are most relevant to men’s lives. We write about fatherhood, family, sex, ethics, war, gender, politics, sports, pornography, and aging. We shy away from nothing. Our content reflects the multidimensionality of men — we are alternatively funny and serious, provocative and thoughtful, earnest and light-hearted. We search far and wide for new stories and new voices from “the front lines of modern manhood.” And we do it without moralizing and without caricaturizing our audience; we let guys be guys, but we do it while challenging confining cultural notions of what a “real man” must be.
Guys today are neither the mindless, sex-obsessed buffoons nor the stoic automatons our culture so often makes them out to be. Our community is smart, compassionate, curious, and open-minded; they strive to be good fathers and husbands, citizens and friends, to lead by example at home and in the workplace, and to understand their role in a changing world. The Good Men Project is a place where that happens. We’re glad to have you along for the ride.
Their website is an amazing resource for men (and women who happen to know men) as well as parents who are raising sons (and daughter.) I commend it to you.